Monday, May 15, 2006

THE SAD DEMISE OF A COUSIN

I can't even begin to write about this sad occasion but I wish to let it off my chest and also to share with you friends out there, to make this as a 'teladan' for us....

iKelah's young cousin passed away Saturday evening in a freak car accident. A trailer/tanker from the opposite direction (North/South highway) lost control and jumped the road divider, and rammed into his car. All in the car died on the spot with severe injuries.

But the freakest 'thing' would be that his family only knew of his death by reading about it in the newspapers the next day! Imagine! The police had difficulties contacting his family eventhough they are living in a town and not in a remote village in Sarawak or something!

When we arrived at the Mortuary of a small district hospital in Johor, the only body not claimed was his. The remains of the rest of the passengers were already claimed by their relatives much earlier in the morning!

I could almost palpate the sorrow in his mum when I hugged her. 'He's a good son. An obedient one. Who'd know that he'll go before me?" she cried. All I could say was 'sabarlah....'

Certainly death is imminent for al of us. May this tragedy serve as a reminder for all of us to better ourselves in every aspects as a Muslim.

To arwah: May Allah swt forgive you and us. May Allah swt protect you and place you amongst those He loves. Ameen Ya Rab, Ameen!

18 comments:

NBB said...

semoga rohnya dicucuri rahmat. people are driving more and more reckless nowadays.

pycnogenol and bea said...

Innalillahi wa inna ilaihi raji'un.

Read about the accident in The Star yesterday. It was indeed a freak accident and he has to die through no fault of his.

May Allah grant you and your family sabr during these difficult times, and may there be a happy reunion awaiting all of us in a better place, inshaAllah..

mynn said...

innalillahi wa inna ilaihi rajiun

masya allah, lots of losses recently. takutnya baca, as i spend everyday on fast motorways congested with lorries.

prayers for the deceased and the family he left behind.

Has said...

al fatihah dari saya untuk nya.

DITH, i am up and about, managed to convice DH (had to ask him to talk to my surgeon friend for DH was terrified of me getting infection from people in hosp) to take me to office to meet up with my ex-prof in MU last time. She is here for conjoint medical post-grad exam.

Queen Of The House said...

Takziah to the family. This is indeed such a sad incident.

simah said...

Innalillahi wa inna ilaihi raji'un.

Semoga ruhnya dicucuri Rahmat dari Allah

anggerik merah said...

Al fatihah. May Allah placed him in Jannah. Very sad to hear.

hiyoshi said...

Innalillahi wa inna ilaihi raji'un.

It's cases like this that make you wonder whether it's still safe to drive on the roads. But then again, Death can come anytime, anywhere.

Deepest condolences to the family.

kenakelayan said...

:( I cannot imagine the pain of not only having to lose a child suddenly, but also to find out in such a manner. I find it surprising that the police couldn't find their home. It can't be that difficult?

crimsonskye said...

This reminds me again why I'm sometimes so scared to see those trailers and tankers on the road...

Al-Fatihah to the arwah..

Ikelah said...

At about 8.30 am last sunday, i received a call from my dad telling me about the tragic acident. i planned to go down to Tangkak, but my dad was against it for there was still no news from arwah's dad. my dad got the news from pak amin my uncle in KL. i got in touch with my brothers in KL and also pak amin. pak amin is a medical doctor at klinik amin, melawati, KL. he is 1 year older tahn me and as we grew up together in mentakab, he is more like an elder brother tahn an uncle in terms of relationship. i got in touch with another uncle in temerloh, pak aji. i then decided to go down to tangkak and we left kuantan at 12.50 pm. we took the segamat highway, past uitm, sagil than tangkak. we arrived at around 3.15 pm. my 2 brothers, p5 and boogey arrived first. than pak amin, me, pak aji and the parents ayah teh. ayah teh is the one that we mentioned operating gerai ayah teh pesagi at R&R temerloh. ayah teh is my late mother younger brother.

we were old that there are 4 of them. 3 of them 60% of the body mutilated, skull and scalp crushed and the assistant pathologist had to fill the scalp with cotton to reshape the head. arwah zul's body was okey externally, multiple lacerations here and there which were sutured. his skull was crushed but the scalp could hold its content. his rib cage was collapsed, both femurs and humerus sustained close fractures. we bathed and 'kapan' him at the mortuary.

ayah teh was cool. i was told by pak aji, he managed to contol himself after expressing and releasing his sorrows at temerloh. faizal, the younger brother was there and calm. the staff at the morgue was very helpful. may Allah repay their kindness appropiately.

the accident took place at about 5pm on saturday. a tanker coming from the norh at the north-south highway lost control, got pass the divider and move straight to the opposite side of the road. it was said by an observer that arwah's car which had no chance to stop or avoid, just rammed to the side of the tanker, stuck under it and as the tanker was still moving it got thrown into a ?paya at the road side. arwah was the driver in his new car bought less than a month. his body was recovered under the water with the car totally wrecked. the 4 of them were brought to tangkak hospital and the family contacted.

i was told that his friend's family were there on the very same night, body bathed, kapan and prayed at 10.00am the next day. as for my cousin, his parents unknown of the tragedy went to temerloh Sunday pekan sari as usual to buy things. he noticed that a number of people had been looking at them more than usual(ayah teh is a local, ex guru besar, his father a JP and he is a known figure in temerloh and maran). when he got home, he received a call from a friend asking him to read that day newspaper(he had not read it yet). it was a shocked to see his son's face in the paper with the story of the tragedy. the police who is supposed to contact him gave an excuse as not able to locate taman jaya where he is staying. Taman jaya is one of the earliest taman perumahan in temerloh. it is a taman perguruan where >90% who are teachers/ex teachers. it in town and there is no excuse for not be able to find the house. its a shame on the police of temerloh for such failure.

We left tangkak at about 5pm, took the nyalas-bahau-teriang-temerloh road. we stopped for maghrib-isya' prayers at bahau. we arrived at ayah teh's home at about 9.30pm. the road was full of cars on both ends. there are more than 100(maybe 200; full in tha lawn, many outside the gate and in the house) people waiting, old, young, far and near for the jenazah. it was drizzling but this did not stop them from waiting. for those who had not yet solat jenazah did the prayers and the arwah was laid to rest immediately after the prayers.

At Temerloh's house I met Cik Da, Ayah Cik and wife, mak Cik Aini and son, mak Su and family, Pak Man and family(all are my late mother's siblings), my dad and makcik Siah, Ayah teh and makteh Chom, Ijan and family, Mak De Munah(arwah's grand mother), Abang Wahab and Hasin(arwah's uncle on mothers side), Azemi, Nizam and Dr Roslan(azman's wife brothers) and some distant relatives that i could not remember their names :(.

my dad was fond of arwah comparing to his other siblings. he had been telling good things about arwah since arwah was still a kid. the last time my dad met arwah was exactly a week ago. he went for a wedding with his parents in kuantan and had insisted on visiting my dad for he had not seen him for sometime. ayah teh told me that my dad made jokes on why arwah was still single and chose to buy a new car instead of saving for getting married. if he could not find a suitable girl, they will help to find him one since ayah teh and mak teh are still without any cucu. ayah teh's eldest had been married for sometimes but still without any kids.

i was not that close to arwah, maybe because of age the difference. he was almost 20 years younger than me. we usually greeted each other and only have short chat. i was closer to his elder brother, azman. one goodness of arwah which i observed and stll remember was during his childhood. he found something valuable(he did not know it was valuable) on the road outside our house and he quickly showed it to his parents telling that someone might lost something. kids usually keep and play with things he found on the road and my only show it to the adults later.

As for all lorry drivers, be responsible with the lethal vehicle that you are driving. Tou dont really know and feel the grief that befell the families of the unfortunates because of your recklessness or irresponsibility. Everybody can just say that all of us dont want it to happen but the question is do they really hold to their word by proper driving to avoid accidents. Walla hu a'lam.

May Allah give is Blessings to arwah and place him among good people.
May Allah also give us His blessings, Protection and place all of us among good people in the Hereafter.

sorry for the long comment. its specially dedicated to families staying far from home to know about the tragedy.

pycnogenol said...

I'm just speechless....

Boogey said...

Me and P5 was the first to reach Tangkak but we hang around outside waiting for the others to arrive. We went to the morgue after our uncle Pak Min called to say he have arrived. The last time we met was probably 3 months ago and sadly we met again last Sunday. I wished we could have met some other day at a better place. Such things become precious when it`s like this and we start saying if and if. This is not the first time it`s happening but I never learn. To have learnt something is probably to provide more time for my relatives and friends but then more time for some means less time for the others. Perhaps it`s not the length of time but the quality that I need to improve. Each meeting, each people is precious.

easylady said...

inna lilla hi wa inna ilai hi ra jiun..

OOD said...

oh Dr House...

my fatihah offerings

2wenty3hree said...

inna lillaahi wa inna ilaahi ro jiun,

my condolences to the family. al Fatihah.

ayumi_of_mirkwood said...

Salaam..

inna lillaahi wa inna ilaahi ro jiun..

I'm very sorry for your loss..

But at the same time, things like this will always makes us reflect how death is the nearest and most unpredictable thing in our lives...

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