Thursday, November 17, 2005

From A Mother To Her Son




I am afraid I have done undue injustice to my eldest son by associating the term metrosexual with him. Eventhough I did it in jest, I sense his dislike and hurt. Thousand apologies Muhammad! I didn't mean to put you in bad light.

Muhammad is my third offspring and my first boy. So after two girls, it was a relief to find that I finally gave birth to a boy! You see, I come from a family of all girls and I was getting worried that I might follow the same trend. Besides, I had this feeling that ikelah's family was also getting 'fidgety' eventhough no words were spoken in the open. Since both of us are the eldest, it's a natural misconception that we needed at least a boy to 'carry' the family's name, so to speak. But we all know that is not true!

His birth was somewhat special. It was the day for my final clinical professional exams and I was 38 weeks , heavily pregnant with Muhammad. Thought I could go through exams without any hitch. But that was not to be. Early in the morning I detected the first 'show'. I cried! I prayed to Allah swt that everything would be ok. I restricted my movements so as not to accelerate the labour. My exam was in the afternoon. 2 hrs prior, I started having contractions. Mild ones.

I walked slowly to the ward and started examining my patient for the exam. The kind patient commented "you're feverish, are you ok?" I just smiled. The contractions were getting stronger and the lapse shorter. I kept my cool. I had Prof Khalid and an Australian Paediatrician as my examiners and despite my condition, I did well, alhamdulillah. Inside I was burning! Imagine, I was in labour, pain and everything but I had to control or I would lose out! Once over, I almost ran! Ikelah rushed me to Pusrawi and I gave birth to Muhammad an hour later! Phew! Never mind that I got a lashing from the Obstetrician for doing the 'stunt'. I was relieved that the baby was safe! But with a small price though! As I had not prepared the few hours prior to labor in the usual manner, instead of lying down I was standing and delaying the birth to a certain extent, and Muhammad was already 'drilling' his way through the birth canal, this caused him to develop a small 'cephalohematoma' on his scalp! Sorry Muhammad! Could this be the cause of him to be mildly dyslexic when he was small? Wallahu'alam.

Having Muhammad was a great joy! I loved him so much that I even said this once, "I will still continue to love him as much, or perhaps even more, even if I get more children". When I was having a rough time emotionally he protected me in his childish way. You see, as I was still studying, my late MIL (may Allah swt bless her soul) helped me bring up my 2 eldest girls. For this I can't thank her enough. Both MIL and FIL were of great help and they helped ease my burden tremendously. But of course, there was bound to be frictions between us as it involved emotions of love between a doting grandma and her 2 grandchildren. Muhammad helped me through this tumultous period . His caring presence gave me hope that I could still be a good mother. And for that I thank him.

My momentous time with Muhammad would be when I accompanied him to get his SPM results and he turned out to be the best student of his school. Words can't describe the glorious feeling that flowed in my veins that day and that feeling persisted for days! I was in cloud nine! To quote 'kenakelayan' who jokingly asked me ' so are you putting on that silly grin still?' Maybe I was, but who cares how silly I looked! I was simply elated.

Now that he is turning into a fine adult, at times, like all adolescents, he tends to do things that incites the worrying old me. The slightest wrong he does, hurts me. At times like these, I'd reminisce the days that he was the apple of my eye, comforting my injured soul, helping me lick my wound. Those were the days....

To Muhammad, thank you for sticking by me eventhough you were too young to understand anything.You've been my saviour through thick and thin. And remember that I will always be there for you too!

Love, Mak.

p.s. ever had the experience of crying whilst reading your own writing? This one did ....

41 comments:

pycnogenol said...

You must be so proud to have Muhammad as your son just as I am pretty sure that he must be equally proud to have you as his mum.
And I am so proud of you too, Muhammad, to know that you were the best student from your school. I'm sorry that I didnt get to know you better the other day.
On behalf of the other bloggers, I would like to apologize too if we had (in jest, of course) pulled your leg, and unintentionally hurt your feelings along the way, with the 'metrosexual' tag.
To be honest, (from one metrosexual to another), we are a RARE breed...*wink*wink*

anggerik merah said...

I am touched by yr story. Speechless...

kenakelayan said...

:) Whoops sorry if the term MS is offensive.. plus only learnt the real meaning of MS today! (tsk tsk silly me).
It's true Pycky, people whose exteriors match their interiors are a rare breed indeed! ie, for us girls its 'don't hate me coz I'm beautiful'! Hehehehe...

abdullahjones said...

:)

Devoleb said...

I remember reading an article on Metrosexuals in The Star, not too long ago. An example of a local MS given was Samser Sidhu (the host of Malaysian Fear Factor)
Muhammad, if I'm of the male specie, I'd be so proud and honoured to be considered a metrosexual.
As for you Pycno, kalau MS pun, dah termasuk kategori MS tua la....

Has said...

rosa, i terjumpa posting in someone's blog titled Blood on The Dance (read Hospital) Floor at the http://countbyron.blogspot.com/2005_11_01_countbyron_archive.html

he he nak jawab tak dak time, baca pun cepat2, sebab hari ni ramai orang dok tunggu nak jumpa saya, pas tu ada meeting lak...u gi jawab lah...memang pun gov hosp banyak cerita seram...he he...so the best thing is to look after your health and not to enter those wards and be under the mercy of the classy nurses and attendants, not to mentioned the doctors who came into the profession just to be respected and for the money.

Em said...

Hi der

Im bloghoppin came across your blog...

Im years older than my younger bro and helped my parents to raise him..I luv him to bits and am proud to see him grow up into a fine,respectful and responsibility young man.

So in a sense eventhough I am not a mother I know how u feel.And yes as I was leaving dis comments I was overwhelmed by emotions.

Take care and Eid Mubarak ...

Em said...

Btw is it ok if I link u to my blog?

Em said...

Hey

Thanks for honour back... Re:Belly dancing-Sat thru a belly dancing class once..Exotic but dun tink Im dat flexible..Hehe

Have a great day Doc!

Has said...

gelang dan baju matching habis,,,kena cari satu ni

Anonymous said...

has, your last comment tu salah address lah. :)) Muhammad tak pakai gelang dan baju matching habis....I can swear to that !!

Mat Deris said...

What metrosexual?

Nurelhuda said...

DITH
Yer saya pun kengkadang menangis tulisan sendiri.Yes we love our children . And please tell your boy that I like men who are in contact with their feminine side !My son Aiman even matches his baju melayu with the kain pelikat....

pemerhati said...

itu komen pasal tangan DITH dengan gelang kot. nice hand n beautiful skin. anak ikut mak lawa.

bergen said...

Dr Roza <------- The best mom in the whole wide world.

Has said...

Roza, hemmm, berapa umur Muhammad ye? He he ni nak cuba match kan with your ex-classmates ni, puzzle-puzzle, garu kepala.

P5 said...

i remember the day momad was born, and his journey in the bakul from kl to kuantan. it was a friday, last day of school before the holidays began.

there i was still in my school uniform carrying a day old baby in a rattan bakul lined with green baby mattress.

and ikelah was thinking of circumsizing him immediately, but (un)luckily didnt take place.

crimsonskye said...

i really am missing my mother now... iskk.... mothers give and love so much, sometimes i don't know when mine is actually hurting.

nurul bahiyah said...

rezeki betul ye!you're tough doc! my friend had show when she was doing post mortem. sib baik tak beranak dalam mortuary tu.

devoleb said...

Patut la anak-anak you pandai-pandai semua nya....emaknya gigih sampai ke saat akhir hendak bersalin. I believe that our children will have the traits of their mothers while they are carrying them. Any scientific proof, I wonder???

Nurelhuda said...

Kalau takder yang matching saya kena gi beli kain pelikat baru laaa...

Em said...

Mornin Dr Roza

Life in Singapore as usual is hectic and Im stressed abt work but life goes on....

Anyway back to the grind...

devoleb said...

I would just love to meet kenakelayan, but have to finish work first, otherwise I will feel so guilty. Lagipun segan nak contact her at hubby's no.

Has said...

dear roza,

kelmarin terbaca blog mobile mom, mesothelioma survivor. sayang sekarang system kat saya down or something with her blog, susah nak tinggal comment. But I guess you all yang linked to sentral station would probably be in her support group. My doa goes to her, tak apa lah dalam blog you pun.

hiyoshi said...

So sweet. A mother's prose for her son...

halela said...

Senangnya you lahirkan dia!!!

P5 said...

that small skulboi jadi posmen pasal his eldest brader tgh belajar mengorat. ahahahahaha

Anonymous said...

I wonder what was was wrapped in the newspaper? (karipap or "love letter"??) Wah! P5, sporting ye...

dr in the house said...

Pycno- I still remember your story about your first baju melayu...very sad

Anggerik Merah- How's your son getting on?

Kenakelayan- exteriors matching interiors eh? heheh--u mean kalau pakai handbag Burberry, kena pakai....

AJ- :)

devoleb- tua or muda, MS tetap MS, :))

Has- dah pergi and dah comment

Em- How's life in Spore?

Bergen- Can't say that I deserve that...many weaknesses..only my 5 kids can vouch

Has- matching ek? kebetulan

Mat Deris- pekabo weii?

Nurelhuda- kalau tak dak yg matching macam mana?

Pemerhati- takkan nak perhati jek?

Has- nak matchkan anak I dgn siapa ek?

p5-I also remember a small schoolboy who came knocking at my hostel door carrying something wrapped in newspaper..saper ek?

crimson- that's true

Nurul Bahiyah- mujur la, kalau tidak, I dread to think of it!

devoleb- Wallahualam. So any plans of meeting up with Kenakelayan?

Lela- tak senang jugak...meneran teruk jugak!

Hiyoshi- taking a break I see

Has- Yes, sama2 kita doa...sesungguhnya doa itu paling penting dalam hidup ini.

P5- so didya use any of his ngorat method for yourself?

Anonymous- Karipap? hehe,,,

Boogey said...

Werq balut hadiah ke surat tu pakai surat khabar? Ish ish ish...i know his father pergi merisik bawak buah tembikai in a plastic bag as buah tangan.

dr in the house said...

Boogey- woiitss---you were also an accomplice in that tradition 'crime', heheh

Boogey said...

Yes, tembikai is better compared to the first option. Buah betik belakang rumah.

2wenty3hree said...

a proud mother. as it should be.

hopefully, when i am a mother one day, id be able to write this way about my own children.

pity my own mother doesnt write as much as i would like her to. :)

OOD said...

dr house,
i nangis too! and i am at the office. Mana i nak tarok muka?!!

ikelah said...

boogey

Ikelah said...

boogey, awak merisik/hantar tanda macam mana pulak?? lagi dasyat... tau kita nak merisik/hantar tanda masa di chat room, at the same time kita orang sedang buat sirih junjung. salina masih tak tau ke yang awak tak tau kita nak menanda the next day? yang ni bawak bahulu kuala penor sebab dah exced budget, nak inform turkey jauh sangat, kat de no hp.

Boogey said...

Yes, i should write an entry about how i got engaged lah. I am sure most people was aware and properly informed about their engagement. But me, I only knew the night before the rombongan. How? Why? Ask Ikelah and Dr House. Me? I was a victim of a conspiracy. Anyway, nasib baik cun. So I don`t mind if you want to do it again for a 2nd, 3rd or 4th time.

ayumi_of_mirkwood said...

I don't know about crying when reading my own entry, but I definitely cried on this entry of yours. Exceptionally done. You must be so proud of your son. I wonder if my own parents are proud of me to that extent. Muhammad sounds like a very nice child.

dr in the house said...

Ayumi- Thanks for the cry---it means a lot to me that someone else felt my emotions too!

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